If you rest, you rust.
Wait … what???? <— yeah that was my initial reaction when driving by a billboard that said this on the freeway. I was so confused I almost got off and had to drive back by, it but as a mom of 3, I was already running 10 minutes late to pick up my mother in law from the airport, so I kept driving. But the entire drive I just could not get this billboard out of my head. I mean REALLY?
I tried to let it go … really I did. But then this weekend we drove right past the same billboard, and I couldn’t let it go any longer. I sent out a text to Chrissy. I yacked my husband’s ear off for 20 min about how enraged this made me and then I decided I’d do what I do best… blog about it.
So bear with me, hear me out and know this is coming from a place of love, ok friends?!
YES it is SUPER important to live a healthy, active lifestyle. YES we want everyone, young or old, big or small, of all abilities to get up and get moving each and every day. BUT I am NOT for the constant busy, the go go go go, every moment of every day lifestyle. I am particularly not for the constant pressure put on moms to do it all and never stop and rest. We all need rest and I’m not just talking about the 7-9 hours of sleep per night that is recommended, but none of us moms get. I’m talking about time to sit and rest and quiet our minds and bodies.
I know many of you mamas are reading this right now nodding your head and saying, “YES I NEED REST… but how?!” Trust me I’m with you. I’ve got 3 kids under 6, none of whom love to sleep. So I’m learning with you. All I can do is give you the tips for what has worked for me.
- Set a time that you are DONE for the day. Each night by 9PM no matter how much work is left, how many texts and calls have gone unanswered, laundry there is to be done, etc. I’m done at 9PM. I make it a goal to go to bed by 10PM so this gives me an hour to settle down a bit. Usually this hour is spent with my husband catching up or watching a show together.
- Be honest with your partner. It’s taken us years to get here but Nick and I have learned to just be brutally honest about what we need to be our best selves. If I’ve had one of those weeks I just tell him hey… I need an hour to shower and be alone, can you make that happen? Then we work out the details of when that should happen. This has allowed me to get so much mental rest. Anyone with young kids knows the constant chatter and noise that come with them can be so draining. We love their little voices but sometimes mama needs an hour of quiet.
- Practice meditation/ soaking. This has been a huge game changer for me. I start every day with 5 min of absolute quiet… just sitting and being. I pray and really open my heart to hear what God has in store for me. Then I end each day in the exact same way. It is incredible what those 5 min can do.
- Don’t get bullied. I’m not taking about the type of bullying you are remembering from high school. I’m talking about the pressures that everyone around you may be placing on you. Do not let the opinion of others influence your activity level. Just because your best friend hits the gym 5 times a week, is PTA leader and soccer team mom doesn’t mean that it is right for you. Don’t let your friends, family, etc. dictate how busy you need to be. Find out the level of rest you need to be your best self and stick with it.
So am I going to egg the billboard or anything… no. In fact, I’m so thankful I drove by it (multiple times). This one little statement has reminded me how important it is to take care of myself and encourage all of you to do the same. We can’t care for anyone else if we are falling apart ourselves. So get out there, move around, get your exercise then take a nap, ok?!